Tag: God

Why I Once Wanted To Be A Man

This blog post is a copy & paste of a post I made on my FaceBook page yesterday https://www.facebook.com/AlexAsperVlogs/posts/519507428586716:0?__tn__=K-R

I wanted to go more in depth after posting this Tweet on Twitter on my AAV channel Twitter Page: https://twitter.com/AlexAsperVlogs/status/1133730486575149056

Wednesday, May 29th, 2019: I made myself a bit vulnerable today. I’ve been reading a lot and watching videos on how many men and women feel about themselves when it comes to what gender they identify with and when they are mistreated by the opposite sex. It breaks my heart. I want to share my heart today.

Note: this post will be about my beliefs particularly on TRADITIONAL genders, not the gender spectrum. I acknowledge there are different genders people identify with. In fact, this post explores and wonders why that is. I love you no matter who you are and the differences between us.

The truth is: men are unfairly stereotyped. So are women. Some people relate to the opposite gender so much that they may even decide to go trans. To all the men that feel demonized, the feminists that feel mistreated by men, and the trans people that identify with the opposite of what sex their born sex, I want you to know that each gender is as much important as they are different. Both men and women are special. It’s unfair to be discriminated because of the gender people perceive in you. There are wonderful men and women that are brave, strong, funny, charming, attractive, civilized, loving, and other great qualities. God created men and women with valuable purposes. Some men and women are born with purposes that even defy society’s gender expectations. Truth is, God made you a man or a woman with a purpose in mind.

As a child, I perceived men as smarter than women, stronger than women, cooler than women, more privileged than women, and more relatable than women. I wanted all those things. Recently I realized that’s because I had a distorted view of who men and women are. Everybody is different and unique and valuable. God loves you just the way you are and made a specific way for a reason. He made some of us more hospitalble than others. He made some gifted in a certain intellectual area than others. He made some stronger than others to protect. He made men that enjoy cooking, putting on makeup, and relate a lot to women. He made women that enjoy goofy “dude” movies, that like video games, and relate a lot to men. I believe these are “gender” expectations that can apply to any gender. I think it’s great when men and women relate to each other  ❤

Note: to those that are trans gender or non-binary, this isn’t to say that your feelings on gender doesn’t matter. God cares about your feelings. I’m sharing this because I want you to know that neither gender is evil. The sex you were assigned at birth isn’t evil. It’s a gender that’s misunderstood by many. Because of this, men that suffer toxic masculinity and extreme feminists have turned people against each other. I want everyone to appreciate, accept, and love each other. No matter what gender (or no gender) you identify with, please think about what I have to say on gender. I know I didn’t talk much about non-traditional genders, but for a reason: it’s to honor two categories of gender: male and female. If you wanted (or still want) to change your gender for the same reasons I did, please consider what I have to say. This isn’t me demanding you change, this is me asking you to think about the 2 traditional genders specifically. My wish is for you to believe my points however you see fit in a way that’s meaningful to you.

Me personally, I accept the gender I’m born with. I relate to people that want to change their gender or identify with neither. These are just my personal reasons for accepting the gender I identify with. If you share my previous distorted reasons for wanting to change, please re-evaluate yourself. Why do you want to identify as trans or queer or non-binary? Does it come from indignation? Or does it come from something else? Perhaps both?

Let’s love and accept each other for their genders. Let’s not judge people that don’t fit the gender norm. Let’s honor the two traditional genders God created. Let’s be truthful with one another and ourselves ❤

What Real Privilege Is

Note: These are my personal beliefs, and I believe that they are 100% true. What I’m about to say might make you uncomfortable if you do not agree. These beliefs are not expressed very often in politics. Many of my explanations for what I think is based on my interpretation of the Bible. If you do not agree with me, let’s please agree to disagree.

Privilege isn’t evil, it is a gift from God. People who have it are able to abuse it, but its purpose is to use it to bless others, many times by helping them gain their own privileges. The Bible calls us to help others who have no voice to be treated fairly (Psalm 82:3).

I have certain privileges because I am white. For example, I don’t have to worry as much to be pulled over for no reason but blind suspicion. However, as a woman, a young adult (20 years old), and as a person who is autistic, I have certain disadvantages as well. My voice may be dismissed by more powerful people (especially men) that look down on me for these things.

People who feel underprivileged for their skin color need to realize that whiteness isn’t evil. Human nature is what’s evil. However, good people do exist on this Earth because of the blood of Jesus. God grants some of them power, like King David. He grants some of them less power, like the Apostle Paul.

Privilege is neutral. It can be a blessing depending on how it’s used. I believe there are people, who are not white, can be granted (and are worthy of) more influence and privileges.

I may not have that many privileges and much power now, but I see that as a humbling reminder that I need God, not the country I live in, to make me truly prosper. That goes for people who are also underprivileged, especially if they are more underprivileged than I am. If I have more power later, that means God is giving me more opportunity (and responsibility) to bless others.

Either way, we must be responsible for any privileges or power or influence we have now.